it is really hard

to separate your emotions from

what needs to be done as part of the

divorce and that’s really challenging

for a lot of people so

i you know always check in with my

clients making sure they’re getting the

support they need you know some have

family support some have friends

um but very often professional support

is is advisable to deal with the the

stress and anxiety and depression that

can come with going through the process

making sure my client is as supported as

possible i think is a

an important starting point

and then you know as much as possible

you know

don’t fight over the small stuff decide

what are the key pieces

you know and very often it’s around kids

i mean there’s a there’s a line in the

sand around kids and other things can be

worked out

that gives the lawyer some flexibility

because sometimes the priority

with the other parent isn’t the same

priority

and so you can you know trade off

priorities uh between the two households

um sometimes someone wants a pension and

the other side wants a house and we can

make those things happen so just

identifying which things to fight over