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when somebody comes into my office
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and is seeking to fight for custody of
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their children
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my number one piece of advice is to
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start documenting
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everything that’s going on in the
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household
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right now and what i mean by documenting
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i don’t mean
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follow people around with cameras but
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take notes
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of dates and times of unique uh
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situations
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whether you think it’s important or not
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because you’re going to need that in the
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future
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to be able to detail out okay
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this is why i want to have custody this
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is why i should be the primary parent
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and these are the instances of things
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that occurred you know
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since we filed and then you also want to
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go back in time
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and try to recreate some situations that
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you recall
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where you can then with some certainty
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testify or talk about dates of things
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occurring
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what occurred who was there without
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those things
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fighting for custody and bringing up
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conclusions about a parent is
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meaningless
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the court wants examples and so my
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advice to
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to parties is to start
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putting together specifics with those
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dates and times
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it’s a good homework assignment that i
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like to give people so that they can do
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that over time so they’re not trying to
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rush around trying to figure these
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things out