I was crazy about her and if we’re up to
me we’d still be married she was telling
me that she was taking tennis lessons no
really didn’t see her gain improve much
turned out she was CNS this starving
artist’s loser emphasis on starving by
the way so she’s shacking up with this
guy now and served me with divorce
papers to pay $20,000 and what they call
spousal maintenance why should I have to
support her in her freeloading boyfriend
you know I mean she was the one that
walked out on me
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you know that might just be the cost of
doing business with the devil hunt that
I mean unfortunately you know when you
look at it from a moral standpoint or
from a common-sense standpoint you would
think hey you know this person who’s
who’s out sleeping around or doing
whatever the hell she’s doing you know
shouldn’t be profiting from her bad
actions however when you start talking
about temporary spousal support which is
the the monies that that person receives
during the pendency of the divorce it’s
a whole different category even than
spousal maintenance and what that is
trying to do is take care of that person
during the pendency so let’s say that my
wife and I are getting a divorce
and we’re separated and she’s living in
the house and turns out that you know
she’s having an affair with the tennis
pro and decides to move this tennis pro
into the house and I’m human and fussing
about I can’t believe that I’ve got to
pay for this well guess what if she
hasn’t worked for a period of time how
are you gonna make sure that she is
taken care of and that’s what the courts
responsibility is so the court is gonna
look at what is necessary to take care
of her minimum reasonable needs once
again that that term were used but
additionally the court doesn’t want to
allow a situation where a major asset of
the parties is going to fall into ruin
so I’m gonna be the one who’s going to
have to take care of the
responsibilities associated with the
house so what all does that include well
that’s going to include you know the
mortgage and you know all the things
that are necessary for the upkeep so if
we’ve got someone taking care of the
yard or if you’ve got someone taking
care of a pool or you know anything that
you can think of along those lines are
going to be lumped in now is that going
to change once the divorce is actually
granted yeah it’s gonna change now does
that mean that she’s not gonna have
spousal maintenance not necessarily
especially if she hasn’t worked for say
over ten years and she’s been a
stay-at-home mom and taking care of the
kids the court in that regard it’s not
that they disregard the bad actions of
that person but they are looking at
other issues you know let’s say it was a
situation where I was a doctor you know
and she’s a nurse I mean was she putting
me through med school
was she a homemaker who was taking
care of the kids while I was furthering
my you know oncology career so there are
all kinds of things that the court takes
into consideration and so it’s really
kind of a fine balancing act just make
sure that you don’t try to get on the
the moral high ground or start looking
at logic because as we all know that
doesn’t always work when you’re trying
to figure out what the law is