What can I do to maintain a good relationship with my children during and after the divorce process?

Denton, TX Family Law Attorney David S. Bouschor, II talks about how to maintain a good relationship with your kids during a divorce.

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Your relationship with your children is probably going to be directly related to how much angst you show with your soon to be ex-spouse in front of your children. Children are sponges. They pick up everything. And they’re very smart, and if you are arguing in front of your children, your children don’t feel good about that because they love both of you, and therefore that’s going to hurt your relationship. The worst thing you can do is somehow, either directly or indirectly, put yourself in a position where you’re asking your children to make a choice between parents. And in a divorce, it’s very common for people to want to have people that agree with their argument, people on their side. Your kids shouldn’t be one of those.

As far as after your divorce, if you are an involved parent, stay an involved parent. Your job is to raise your kids. Continue to do that even though you’re going through a divorce. Now, it is tough when people have a child who seems to be aligning with the other parent, and I’ve had many cases where children are completely brought over to one side because of alienating behavior by one of the clients, and when that child gets to be 16, 17, or 18, or even older, and starts figuring out the way the world turns, they end up going back with the other parent because they see the problems with that. Your children are going to love both of you because both of you are your client no matter how bad you are, and don’t ever lose sight of that. And that’s the best way of keeping a relationship with your kids.