How much information should I share about my divorce with my children?

New York, NY divorce attorney, Ken Jewell talks about what is reasonable to share with your children when discussing divorce.

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You always want to be honest and transparent with your children. A good parent child relationship takes into account an interaction by which the children can rely and feel comfortable with going forward. With that said, you don’t want to disparage the other parent with details that are relevant to the divorce, but are irrelevant to the parent child relationship.

One of the concerns that we have is that if in the event the parents are unable to agree on the issues concerning either child custody or parenting time or decision making is that a court, after a period of time where the parties can’t negotiate a settlement, may appoint first an attorney for the child. And then possibly a forensic examination as to how the family system operated.

So it’s always important to make sure that you’re honest and you’re transparent. However, you don’t want to be so honest and so transparent that you’re damaging the other parent’s relationship with your child. In fact, you want to be sure that as honest and transparent as you are, that you are also promoting that child’s relationship or the children’s relationship with the other parent. That is what is expected of you.