How do you manage different levels of conflict in divorce cases?

Stillwater family law attorney, Matt Ludt, discusses the various ways conflict is evaluated in divorce.

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Managing conflict within a divorce depends quite a bit on communicating with the client and making sure that they’ve got clear expectations as to what’s expected of them in the process and what’s expected of them afterwards. I oftentimes share with my clients literature that’s been developed by Minnesota judges as to what they can expect and what’s expected of them in the conduct of the divorce so that we understand where the threshold is both in regards to the outcome of the divorce and making sure that that’s reasonable, realizing that if you were married for 15 years, the judge isn’t gonna order anything where all the sudden your spouse doesn’t see the children ever again. That’s not reasonable, and so we wanna make sure that the outcome – they understand what the outcome can be. And that cuts down on conflict, but then just also ongoing while it’s going on. You don’t talk to the children about adult issues.

You don’t talk to them about the status of financial support. You don’t speak badly about the other parent, and that helps cut down on conflict. Otherwise, the only other thing is just move things along and not let things fester and just how fast can we advance this case and this – when you pick up speed, the conflict tends to drop off.